You Can Break the Cycle
You know there’s a different way to live.
So why do you keep finding yourself in the same old patterns?
You promise yourself you'll stop people-pleasing, but still find it hard to say no. You know you don't need to keep everyone happy, yet the guilt creeps in anyway. You react in ways you wish you hadn't, or find yourself in familiar relationship patterns you thought you'd moved beyond. Becoming a parent has brought things to the surface that you thought you'd already worked through.
You've done the thinking. You've had the realisations. So why is it still so hard to change?
Because understanding a pattern and actually changing it are two different things.
The ways we think, feel and behave often developed long before we had a choice. They helped us feel safe, belong and get through difficult things. But what once protected us can end up keeping us stuck.
This is where we begin.
Through Shadow Integration, I help you explore the parts of yourself beneath these patterns, we don't blame your past or fix what's wrong with you, together we're gaining a deeper understanding of who you are beneath these coping mechanisms, allowing you to do things differently.
This is experiential, embodied work that goes beyond talking about your patterns. Together, we make space for the feelings, needs and parts of yourself that have been harder to acknowledge, so that change can happen from the inside out.
You don't have to keep living in ways that no longer feel like you.
Ways to Work With Me
A five-hour immersive session for exploring the patterns you can't seem to shift, even when you understand where they come from.
We look beneath the ways you've learned to think, feel and behave, exploring the parts of you that keep people-pleasing, hold everything together, push feelings away or react in ways you don't quite understand. Through reflection, movement, symbols and dialogue, we work with these parts of you in a way that goes beyond talking alone. This is space to get curious about why you've become the way you are, meet yourself with a little more understanding, and begin to find different ways of being.
A one-hour session, online or in person, to help you make sense of the patterns showing up in your everyday life and find a way forward. Perhaps you're struggling to set boundaries, navigating a difficult relationship, or finding yourself reacting in ways you wish you could change. Whatever it may be, together we explore what's going on beneath the surface, what might be keeping you stuck, and how you could begin to approach things differently. This is a space to gain perspective, understand yourself better and find practical ways to move forward, so you can start making choices that feel more like your own.
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"All of me felt honoured and grateful to Frankie. I think she is an incredible therapist, full of integrity, very insightful and intuitive in how she works, a safe pair of hands who I feel has walked the walk."
- Natasha
You might know exactly why you struggle to say no, why you find yourself keeping everyone happy, or why certain situations bring out reactions you wish you could change. But knowing why doesn't always make it easier to do things differently.
That's because these patterns aren't simply habits we can think our way out of. Many began as ways of adapting to the people and environments we grew up around. They helped us feel safe, stay connected and get our needs met. Over time, they can become so familiar that we stop recognising them as adaptations and start to see them as simply who we are.
This work is about getting to know the parts of you beneath those patterns. Not just talking about what you do, but exploring the feelings, needs and protective responses that might be keeping you stuck. Through reflection and embodied, experiential work, we create space to understand these parts of yourself in a different way, so that new ways of responding can begin to emerge.
This can be especially meaningful when you keep finding yourself in the same relationship patterns, when becoming a parent brings old family dynamics to the surface, or when you're trying to make sense of the ways your upbringing still shapes your life today.
You don't have to keep repeating what you've always known. With greater understanding of yourself, there can be more room to choose how you want to live, relate and show up in the world.
